The so called "good guy"

So about 7 months ago, I met this guy. We started out as just friends because he had a girlfriend and I was okay with that. As time went on we became really close and it was great. It’s always nice to have someone of the opposite sex as a best friend because that avoids all the bitchiness that you encounter with girls. We were in the friend zone for a while but we got out of it and started dating. The beginning of our relationship was phenomenal; he had everything that I looked for in a guy. You know everyone always has so much to say about “the good guy” well that was him.

Today I was thinking how everyone always speaks about how us girls choose to go for the so called “bad boy” and disregard the good guy that has everything  going for him, the kind of guy that would give Channing Tatum in the Vow a run for his money.

One of my friends was seeing this guy and he literally appeared to be perfect. He was one of those guys that didn’t ask for much, he gave a lot and didn’t expect much in return and once again can be described as the epitome of a good guy. Today however, out of the blue he told her that they couldn’t be more than friends. This came as a shock to me because I’m usually a good judge of character, and he really appeared to be the real deal, you know, decent.

The reason why I’m writing this post is to focus solely on the fact that guys have so much to say about us girls always going for the bad guys when the good guys are exactly the same.

I was thinking about this today and trying to reason with myself as to why girls prefer bad boys.  I came to the conclusion that when you get into a relationship with a guy that appears to be bad news you go into it really guarded and not expecting much because you probably know in the back of your mind that he’s going to hurt you. I mean if he has the reputation of a bad boy then he’s bound to live up to that name right?

These guys come in many forms; the player, the heartbreaker, the guy that can’t settle down & the cocky douchebag-to name a few. When you get into a relationship with a guy like this you have a certain fear of getting hurt, you automatically build up walls to prevent you from being fully vulnerable because you know if you let yourself go you’ll probably end up getting your heart broken.

On the other hand, with a good guy you don’t expect him to hurt you and it is for this reason that you let your walls down and become totally vulnerable. Because both the trust and the love are there it’s easy to release all your inhibitions and fully give yourself to the person because he’s just a good guy. That makes sense right?

Right

So when he ends up hurting you it comes as a shock because he’s a good guy. The expectation of getting hurt never existed. It is not something that you’re prepared for and it hits you like a moving train.

After hearing this story about my friend I tweeted “all guys are assholes, its literally been proven”. That was probably an unfair assumption to make considering the fact that I haven’t met every guy in the world but all the guys that I’ve encountered have proven this theory to be correct. I am yet to meet a guy that sticks to his word and genuinely means what he says.

 

I’m sure that one day I’ll meet a guy that will prove me wrong and show me that all guys are in fact not assholes and that there are some good ones in between. In the meantime though, I’ll stick by my statement that all guys are assholes and in the words of Kanye West: let’s have a toast for the douchebags.