Girls that accept the hand that they're dealt.

Imagine you were with a guy who - after breaking your heart - told you this:

“This past year I have learnt only one thing, that I cannot exist without you, that I cannot breathe without you, that the man I am without you is nothing. I am nothing and you are everything and I need you to give me another chance. I demand another chance, we’re worth another chance”

-The Fixer

Would you give him a second chance?

I’ve been dwelling on this topic for quite some time now and I find myself constantly revisiting the question “How do you know whether you should give someone a second chance or not”

Picture this situation:

A girl, that’s completely broken, gets cheated on by her boyfriend over and over again, yet she keeps going back because he has a way with words, he has the ability to seduce her with his words, telling her exactly what she needs to hear to feel safe with him. He has the ability to capture her with his humour, his yearning and ambition for life and even though he treats her like utter crap, she keeps going back, time and time again and he knows that she will do this, he knows that she’ll always be there so he keeps cheating.

When I evaluate this situation, I can’t help but admire a girl like this. A girl that even though knows she is going to get her heart broken is strong enough to stick around and pull through.  A girl that indirectly gets told time and time again that she isn’t enough but continues to have hope that maybe one day she will be.

I know for sure that if you give someone your everything you expect the same from them, but this girl expects nothing and still gives her everything, this girl that is so broken has the strength to hurt over and over again. This girl is admirable.

A few months ago I heard about a situation like this. I remember myself saying that a girl that keeps going back and just accepts the hand that she is dealt has no self-respect nor does she have a realization of self-worth.

But is it so bad that these people that continue handing out second chances have faith and truly believe that people can change? Is it so bad that they believe in rehabilitation and forgiveness?  Honestly, I wish that I could be like that. Not in the sense that I just accept when people take advantage of me and my trust but in a sense that I wish that I could hand out second chances as freely as these girls do. I wish that I believed in someone enough to have faith that they could change.

Everyone deserves someone like this in their life, someone that will forgive the unforgivable.  I wish that I could be that person to someone because I’d love for someone to be that person to me. I hope that one day I may develop into a person like this, someone who is able to forgive and move on no matter how hard the situation may be, because situations like these are what makes you strong .

And I don’t want to be weak